Ever feel insecure in front of your peers before?
It is so easy to get stuck in peer pressure. For instance, two of my friends just got themselves new DSLR camera, and it looks so much better than mine (free gift of class 10 memory card & filter, and I have to spend hundreds just to get them?). I feel stressed and I desire to own something better, more powerful and cool. When my classmates have better scores in exam, I feel a pain in my heart, especially when the lecturer praise the student openly in front of me. Jealous? Yeap! Angry? Not so sure. Pressured? Absolutely. Insecure? I admit.
Sometimes even though we have our smile on our face, it is just a pretended smile trying to cover our innermost feeling of jealousy and disappointment from being discovered by our friends.
Even worse, sometimes it is not merely a feeling of being pressured: it develops into a feeling of insecurity, an anxious feeling of being overcome while my self-esteem becomes lower and lower. These insecure feeling soon develops into a sense of not fitting in, and the desire of getting myself fit into my own world grows stronger and stronger.
Most of the time, I would just ignore my own feeling. “It’s just temporarily. Focus on something else because you are of better value.” I continue to hypnotize myself with the above words.
I had shared this emotional trouble with a few of my friends, and most of them advised me to just shift my own thinking and change my way of thinking. It sounds pretty easy, but sometimes it is just so hard to shift your own thinking. IT JUST POPS into My MIND.
Only if I knew how much value I have within myself. Only if I knew how much am I capable of doing with the talents that I have.
Everyone has a value definitely. You have to find it yourself. No one is going to help you to find out your own value.
When you discover your own value, it is definitely going to help you overcome your low self-esteem and insecurity. Every time whenever I feel particularly low in confidence, I would continue to remind myself of my own self value. I know what am I capable of doing, so why should I bother things around me that make me feel insecure?
By reminding your own value doesn’t mean you downgrade others. It is just that you have to tell you that, “hey, they are good. But you aren’t bad as well. Be thankful.” To me, it does create a greater sense of confidence in my heart that I am capable of doing so much more. With such confidence I am daring to try out more things in my life, and subsequently some of my tryouts become quite a success in my life.
I also choose to talk to my friends about my emotion. It reminds me of my own value and makes me realize that there is another way for me and I shall not be controlled by my own emotion.
Everyone has a value definitely, you just have to find it yourself. What’s yours?